What Dr. Harpreet Kaur Wants Parents to Know About Extracurriculars

Ever wonder if all those extracurricular activities are really worth it?

In a recent Vox article, Dr. Harpreet Kaur, pediatric psychologist and our founder at the Institute of Pediatric Psychology, shared some thoughtful insight that can help parents see these activities in a whole new light.

Dr. Kaur explains that extracurriculars aren’t just about sports or padding a college resume. They’re actually a great way for kids and teens to explore who they are and what they care about.

If your child isn’t sure where to start, she suggests thinking about their values, such as creativity, connection, helping others, or just having fun. Finding activities that align with what matters to them is often the key to helping them feel more motivated and confident.

“If we start thinking outside the box and using their values, I’m confident we’ll be able to find something they’re interested in.”

She also reminds us that not everything needs to be goal-oriented. It’s okay if your kid tries something and doesn’t stick with it. These experiences are how they learn what they do enjoy. The goal is to support their growth, not stress them out.

And don’t forget about downtime. Dr. Kaur says unstructured time is just as important. Sometimes, the best ideas and interests pop up when kids have the space to just be.

Bottom line? When we give kids the freedom to explore and support their curiosity (without the pressure), we’re helping them grow into well-rounded, self-aware humans.

Not sure where to start with your child’s interests? We’re here to help. Reach out to the Institute of Pediatric Psychology to learn how therapy and support can guide your child’s growth, on and off the field.